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MIDLIFE DISCOVERIES is a new blog series based on my own life and where I am in it.  Most would identify this as as a midlife crisis. However,  I chose not to embrace it as a crisis rather a discovery of the “why”. Up until this point I could not figure out why I kept finding myself in the same repetitive cycle and situations; why I keep attracting the same men; why am I not as confident and esteemed as I should be in myself and my talents; why have I not gotten this parenting thing  – WHY?

At 36 I’m finally understanding the “why” in many areas of my life. As I discover and accept, I reinvent, evolve and grow.  Growing is never a bad thing, so no crisis here, just an enlightened period of discovery that I welcome arms opened wide.  Now the next 30 plus years or however long I am blessed to be here will be lived with fullness and understanding of who I really am.  I share hoping you can get something out of it as I know I can’t be the only one! Lol!

Enjoy!

MIDLIFE DISCOVERIES – “Separating the MEN from the BOYS”

The period of life when you understand how 2 separate the men from the boys. Boys avoid accountability for not being a MAN…a MAN embraces accountability when he acts like a BOY! BOYS are incompetent of handling their OWN business…Competent are the MEN who take OWNERSHIP of their business…So are u a boy or a man?…

Here is how our conversation went on facebook:

Conchevia Upson Washington

Deep Moshay…Deep!
Yesterday at 1:33pm ·
The'one Sun'lion Ra

The’one Sun’lion Ra

Hahahahaah! Trick question cause if I have to tell you then what does that mean!? =)
Yesterday at 1:35pm ·
Ravenna S Taylor

Ravenna S Taylor

Well put Moresha…some of us men do lapse from time to time, but your right…taking responsibility for being “boyish” is what seperates us (men)from the boys.
Yesterday at 1:36pm ·
Christia Sanders

Christia Sanders

That is so true!
Yesterday at 1:56pm ·
Moshay Laren

Moshay Laren

Banny what’s up with the government? Lol
Yesterday at 2:02pm ·
Harry Walker

Harry Walker

Girls avoid accountability for not finding a MAN… a WOMAN embraces accountability for choosing to deal with a BOY! GIRLS are incompetent of identifying a MAN that can handle his business… Competent are the WOMEN who take OWNERSHIP of being able to tell the difference… So can u tell? The Responses of HarryDaBroker coming soon too…
Yesterday at 2:04pm ·
Tamara Tolbert

Yesterday at 2:07pm ·
Ravenna S Taylor

Ravenna S Taylor

Sorry hun…you know how we do…wont do it again….
Yesterday at 2:14pm ·
Moshay Laren

Moshay Laren

I love the spin Harry! The kicker is…

Men & Women too often put trust into unworthy boys & girls

Believing they are who they say they are

By the time you catch onto the truth, it’s usually too late You’ve been hood-winked, bamboozled and duped!

Yet, even through the bouts of deception a real Man or Woman won’t change their M.O. (Modus operandi)See More

They will forgive again!

Trust again!

To open their hearts to love again!

…Oh and the Boys & girls…Well(smack!)…will have to read this over again – scratching their heads trying to figure out what is a modus operandi???…because they didn’t quite get it the first time! Lol!

Yesterday at 3:25pm ·
Leonard Ollison

Leonard Ollison

Moshay you say it is a midlife discovery – often times we refuse to see what is right for our eyes – we are who we say we are – Men/Women – Boys/Girls -we are consistent performers – it is time we awaken to the truth as it is displayed before our eyes – many people don’t change their basic nature – we are who we say we are – it is us to us to listen
Yesterday at 4:15pm ·
Ravenna S Taylor

Ravenna S Taylor

Great conversation. I agree, real men and women will love over and over again. You can’t close the door on love….you’re never garaunted another shot No matter what happens, I leave myself open to love….because it always happens when you have abandonded your search or given up hope. True love exists, we just have to know it when we see it…and See Morebe brave enough to take a chance… To be vulnerable, and open, willing to “dive in” …headfirst…without fear or emotional baggage. Unpack your bags, get comfortable, let me rub your feet. I know you came a long way to find me….and I’ve been waiting. You won’t need those bags where were going. I promise.
Yesterday at 4:25pm via Email Reply ·
Moshay Laren

Moshay Laren

Oooooo, Yeesss, Yesss, Yesss Banny! That was orgasmic mental stimulation! You hit it on the nose, ears, eyes and lips! Just imagine..if this creed were as popular as Facebook wi games or ipods…Just imagine…deep breathe in and out…(sigh)
Yesterday at 5:32pm ·
Harry Walker

Harry Walker

Sometimes we see things for what we want them to be and not what they are. We want to be loved and be in love so we trick ourselves into thinking that we have found love and we settle for what we want love to look like (boys and girls). When the veil of deception gets lifted and we see the truth for what it really is, we find ourselves singing See Moresad love songs talkin bout “love dont live here anymore”…

True love is being in love with ourselves Once we fall in love with ourselves and realize that true love has always lived deep within, the laws of attraction get put into motion. And the MEN and WOMEN can recognize each other by the battle wounds obtained from the journey of becoming real MEN and real WOMEN.

Yesterday at 6:11pm ·
Moshay Laren

Moshay Laren

Ummmmmm I am so loving this healthy, candid, earnest, sincere dialogue, especially out the mouths of MEN. It gives hope to the hundreds of women I’ve talked to who had given up on love after kissing a few toads.

Thank you Banny and Harry! Your words woke something up in me today. Very refreshing…thanks again!

Yesterday at 7:52pm ·
Nicole Walden-Hooks

Nicole Walden-Hooks

preech sis!
Yesterday at 9:06pm ·
Ravenna S Taylor

Ravenna S Taylor

Any time Shay. we need healthy dialouge about relationships, because there is this gulf between black men and women. We need to know about eachothers fears, desires, hang ups, and shortcomings. I think once we know what we are and what we want we can begin to truly bridge the gap. At this point I want to be her friend more than her lover. See MoreFriendship is the part that is lacking in most relationships out here. When u build your emotional “house” on the rock of friendship, you have a solid foundation and a sound structure. Love should be the light, not Friday night fights!
11 hours ago ·
Ravenna S Taylor

Ravenna S Taylor

Yes I am available to co-host a day of male/female relationship advice and discussion. Just call me…or have your people call my peoples people…..got it?
11 hours ago ·
Moshay Laren

Moshay Laren

Thanks all for your enlightenment and conversation! You’re right Banny we need more productive dialogue between genders. I’m reading Hill Harper’s book “Conversation” which speaks to the point of gender issues and misconceptions we each bring to the relationship in addition to our own individual baggage. It’s so on point!

If you really wanna be a See Morepart of a larger conversation. I cordially invite you to join me at Warm Daddy’s this Monday for dinner, cocktails and “The Conversation: Getting to know one another”. An event where grown men and women have grown conversation. Starts @ 7pm….Hope to see you there!

Goodnight!

10 hours ago ·

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