All women want to find love, no matter what race they are. They all look for the whole package: successful, provider, attractive and loving, but sadly in the black community those hard to come by men aren’t checking for the sisters. When we look at successful black men we start to notice the chick on his hip rarely looks like him. Most successful black celebrities, businessmen, CEO and entrepreneurs don’t seem to have a black woman by their sides. Most of their women are exotic looking and Barbie prefect. Why is that?
Some men may argue that they are tired of the “black woman drama”, tired of the stress that black women bring to the table, or even tired of not being able to run their fingers through their woman’s hair. It almost seems as though these successful black men have set a standard that black women just can’t seem to measure up to. Some may refer to these men as sell outs, but everyone has their own preference. For instance, some men may prefer a woman who can disagree without getting loud; a woman who is supportive; well-rounded; or even a woman who goes swimming.
Does the media portray that black women aren’t pretty enough as other races? It almost seem as though there is an unwritten rule that says: When you reach a certain level of success you have to have a fancy car, a fancy lifestyle and a white woman to be complete? You look at celebrities such as Tiger Woods, Kobe Bryant, Kanye West, and Russell Simmons who are all black, all successful, and all prefer women outside of their race. Now, there are some successful black men who do have a black woman by their side such as LeBron James, Denzel Washington and President Barack Obama, but these men are ostensible to be very few in numbers.
Some black men may say, “Back when I was starting from the bottom the sisters wasn’t checking for me but out looking for the “flashy thug” types, but now that I have climbed the success ladder they all on me, and now I’m not checking for them.” Are black women not as supportive and patience as other women from different cultures?
There are a lot of stereotypes about black women, but that’s just what they are, stereotypes, which means they are not all true! Not all black women roll their necks and are loud and ghetto. Not all black women wear weaves and don’t go swimming. Not all black women are non-adventures and ignorant to life. We need to stop putting people in boxes, labeling and writing them off.
The moral of the story is, do not judge someone by stereotypes or past experiences everyone is different, and our black in beautiful too.
words by : Nadaysha Screven