A MUST READ: Ways to Revive Ladylikeness

Know You’re a Lady – it’s one thing to be lady and know it. If you’re truly a lady, there’s no reason to continuously remind anyone that you are and should be treated as such. Hearing a woman say, “I am a lady” or “treat me like lady” is a turnoff! There’s no need to persuade or convince anyone that you are. Possessing the ability to be a lady and “walking the walk” are two different things. Once a lady, always a lady . . . there’s no on/off switch.

Be Polite and Poised – a smile speaks more than words and when coupled with a “thank you” or “I appreciate it” you can really lighten someone’s day and just signals that you acknowledge the most minute of gestures. Remain poised at all times, if someone or even your man hits you with an attitude for no good reason, don’t react nor retaliate, gently and sincerely respond, kill them with kindness or walk away and revisit when tempers have cooled. If you’re approached by a man that you have no interest in, eye rolling and teeth sucking are unnecessary, rejection is never easy to stomach for a man or woman! Politely decline, “that’s very nice of you to say and I’m flattered, but no thank you.”

Listen Carefully – listening is a lost art. When two, or more, people have a conversation it’s natural to want to be heard or express your opinion. But if you listen to what everyone else has to say and truly engage in listening, when you do finally say something, everyone is going to want to hear what you have to say by default. And because you’ve listened so well, your perspective is all inclusive and more poignant.

Be Graceful – you can tell a lady by her walk and talk. There’s a hint of elegance and refinement in her every move. Ladies, if you’re rocking a set of 6 inch heels, remember you’re wearing them, they are not wearing you! Walk them even if your feet are barking! You know the adage, “beauty knows no pain!” The first thing anyone sees when you enter a room is how you present yourself – if you’re polished and poised. Then you open your mouth . . . articulate and watch the volume. Don’t be the “all bark and no bite” biddy in the room. No bueno.

Bossy is No Bueno – nobody wants to be told what to do, especially a man! “Do this” and “do that” are orders and if you’re a boss at your job, leave that hat on the desk, don’t take it home or into your realtionship. Men are far more apt to fulfill a task when asked properly. “Would you mind” and “would you please” go a long way! You catch more bees with honey than vinegar!

Lose the Battle Win the War – you do not have to have long drawn out arguments to be “right.” You have to choose whether you want to be right or happy. Silence and “backing down” does not mean you have “lost.” Your opinion is far more valuable when it’s conveyed calmly and with ease. Fighting fire with fire only begets larger flames . . . and the damage can be irreparable!

(VIA: Bossip.com)